Having an Outlook of Hope!

Hope!

110_F_2828293_K53QRxpDskcV1OPvngYZaSc0NtGHng_PXPEach day brings a new opportunity for us to look for new happiness.  Even if yesterday wasn’t the best day of your life — even if the last year
wasn’t the best year of your life — each morning brings a new day.  Each day is a new starting point in our lives.  By our choice, by our thinking and doing, by our outlook of hope, we actually begin our life anew each and every day.  Look around you, and even if you think things aren’t the very best in your life, you will see someone who is having an even worse time in their life.

Hope is a good thing to cultivate in your thinking. Sometimes we may all question, just what hope is there? But there is always hope! Some days we may have to look and think a little harder in order to find hope, but it is worth it! No matter how bad things are, strive toward having hope active and alive in your life. Sometimes we may need to look to our Lord, or whoever we see as our “Higher Power,” for that hope and that works if we let it. Even if today still seems to not be our best day, plan to have hope that tomorrow will be better. Always strive to move upward each day; don’t let yourself sink downward.

Yesterday is our past; today is our present; tomorrow is our future and full of hope for each day to be better than the day before. Often instead of thinking about all of our bad days, just changing to thinking of just today is helpful. It’s sort of like the chores we know need to be done and we know we don’t have time to do them all. If we concentrate on one chore — the most important one — we will feel a sense of accomplishment when we complete that one task. Taking just one day to think about works about the same — most often we can deal with that one day and get through it. Live in the present as much as you can. I find that to be very helpful in relieving the stresses I encounter each day. At the end of today, then reach out for the hopes you have for tomorrow, and let today’s stresses melt away and let sleep rest and refresh you for tomorrow.

Whether tomorrow turns out to be raining and stormy, sad, happy, sunny, hot or cold, we should find some good point about the day and be happy about something. Maybe a good friend will call, maybe there will be something interesting in the mail, maybe we will accomplish something that will make us happy, maybe it will just be an ordinary day — but if we look we can usually find something that will give us a smile, or even a laugh, or just a satisfied, comfortable feeling. Maybe it will be a great day! Maybe something totally unexpected will happen that will make it into a wonderful day! From day to day we never really can be sure just what tomorrow will bring, but do look for at least a moment of happiness each day! Enjoy that moment and keep looking for more of those moments in the days that follow!

Have a great, happy day!

Barbara

Facing Our Challenges!

Our Challenges!

Sometimes in our lives we get so caught up in all of the little challenges we constantly face, we forget to look at the big picture.  If we look around, 110_F_8515497_fvNWZnqAvUi2JxjYfgbQd70CcvAL7pwc_PXPoften we see others with challenges that we think are even worse than ours.  Then we are thankful for what we have in life.  We really need to face all of our challenges that same way — we must always be grateful for the good times and find the best way to get through the not-so-great times.  Some of the down times are actually not so big and we can figure out how to manage them, but now and then something happens that is tougher with which to deal.  Fortunately the really big issues are not too often usually, and the smaller problems we have dealt with do help us figure out how we can get through those more difficult times.

Some of our biggest difficulties might be a divorce, a death of a family member or close friend, a job loss, a severe injury or health problem, and right now of course the economy has been one of everyone’s biggest problems. No matter young or old, the economy affects all of us in some way — no job, money problems, loss of a home, or even the higher prices we must pay for everything. It is hard to get through any of these problems, but we all just have to stick with it and face it as best we can.

Some have found a whole new area of work they had never even thought of before, with some of those jobs being in service to others in some way. A good friend of ours had done many different jobs in her lifetime, and turned to driving those who could no longer drive to doctor appointments, or the bank, or the market. Some older people need just a little help with what they have to do, and need a ride to get there. Some just need someone to come and help them with something in their home like cleaning or cooking, and they also enjoy having someone to talk to for a while. If they have a hard time getting out on their own, they may not see anyone except when they hire someone to help them in some way.

During these times of poor economy, some families have had to move in together. If they all help to make it work out, it will. Everyone has to be willing to work together on it though, as when there is a lot of grumbling in the group of people it won’t be a happy time for anyone. I remember being a child during/after World War II and standing in line with our mother for meat and other necessities. I remember my father having gas coupons, and since he drove in the course of his job he had to really plan his day, with very little gas available sometimes. As difficult as those times were, they did finally end and most were able to slowly rebuild their lives back to where they wanted them to be.

In the meantime, while we wait for times to get better now, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to find things to see or do that make us happy! When we are happy we can get through life’s challenges so much better and we also will stay healthier too. Happiness does help our health to be better, but if we meet challenges with being upset all of the time, our health will suffer. So, do choose to be happy — that’s what I found works the very best!

Until next time, stay happy and healthy!

Barbara

Our What If’s and Why Me’s

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In our lives we all have moments when we have our “What If’s” and “Why Me’s” don’t we. A diagnosis of a serious health problem – that is a really sad, unhappy, worrisome moment. But, when you think about it, both what if and why me are negative comments/thoughts. Health and happiness need us to be positive in order to find our best in both health and happiness. Even if something throws us for a bit, and we are depressed, we must find a way back to finding something positive to dispel the negative. We all have that within us, but sometimes we must rise up and try harder to locate it.

With the “why me’s” in life, the positive side of that is – “why not me!” If you use that as a starting point and start looking for what to do, where to go, how to make a better outcome, you will get there! A good friend of mine was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. She went through radiation and chemo, and followed nutritional guides for those who have cancer, and managed to live more fairly healthy years than if she had just given up and waited to die. She had four remissions and then re-occurrences over the years, but just kept doing the very best she could at all times. In fact at one point, about mid-way along, she was sent to a specialist at a very large university hospital. After reading her medical records which were sent to him, her doctor told her he was shocked to see her walk in the door unassisted, as he assumed she would be wheeled through his door in a wheelchair. Her positive way of life kept her going and much healthier than if she had taken a negative viewpoint. She is gone now, and dearly missed, but those of us that knew her benefited so much from her positive attitude.

For the “what if’s” in life, the positive side of that is – “even if!” For happiness and health, that more positive viewpoint does so much more for us. There again, a positive attitude gives us more happiness and better health than taking a negative point of view. With “even if,” you are taking a positive stance and moving forward in a positive way. You have to look for the best to happen, have hope of the best happening, and little by little things will be better for you. With all of us that works because it is a positive approach to our problems. Anything positive must have a better outcome than if we are negative. Instead of letting life happen to us, we turn things around and start helping our lives to progress forward in a healthier and happier way. Sometimes we have to be reminded to look for the positive – by a friend, by an interesting magazine article, by someone on a favorite TV show, by leaning on our faith. Hope is a positive thing and something we want to look for and hang onto. Do that and life will move in a more positive direction and your viewpoint will keep on an upward course.

‘Til next time,

Barbara

Today Is Here – Be Happy!

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Every day in our lives is important! Today is here, so try to make it special in some way. Do something good for your health; find something about which to be happy – even if you start out feeling there is nothing. Your happiness often has a lot to do with your having better health, so it is important to find happy things to dwell on each day.

Did the sun come out today after several days of ugly weather? Did you hear from a friend or family member that you were hoping would contact you? You woke up – isn’t that something good? My late Dad used to say, when he was past age 90, “I always check the obituaries and if I’m not in them, it’s a good day.”

We have a son-in-law who has been going through a battle with cancer and chemo, radiation, and surgeries. His positive attitude is, I am sure, what has gotten him this far in this dreadful situation. His cancer doctor was amazed at his attitude, and surprised when he had everyone who was getting chemo at the same time as he was, laughing and cheerful. He said when he went down the hallway singing, the doctor asked him if he would be willing to speak to other younger patients about keeping a happy, positive attitude. Of course, he said he was happy to do that!

Even if this day is just another in a string of “bad days” you will feel better if you can concentrate on happy thoughts. You might read a humorous book or magazine article, watch a funny movie, or talk to a happy, upbeat friend. Just do something that will lift your spirits, and you will find out how much better the day turns out to be!

Take care, and be happy and healthy!

Barbara